Evan's First Post

Time to get started on posting. I am excited that we have started the process again here in BC. I know that this could take some time and with some patience all will be worth it.

I am really happy and ecstatic to welcome a new little reker when the time is right.

Thank you and Prayer Request

Thanks so much for all the positive and loving words people sent us!

One prayer request right now is that Evan's criminal record check would hurry up and get back so we can get all our paper work in. Mine took a day and his is taking much longer then a day, almost 2 weeks but they do say it could take up to 3 weeks.

We are still waiting on our referral to the fertility clinic also. That could take months!

We also are going to look at a plac, its very outdated like stuck in the 70's but we are hoping we can get it cheaper and just do the reno's. But we hope it has the family room plus 2 bedrooms down stairs, my brother lives in the same house across the street so we know how his is laid out. Here is the MLS # it is a duplex (semi) http://www.realtor.ca/propertyDetails.aspx?propertyId=8371018

Denise

Adoption process Journey so far

Well adoption is such a blessed journey and we are super excited to have started this journey. We do know its not going to be easy and we plan on many road bumps, sadness and struggles, But we are ready and pray that it will be an easy ride for us.

First of all we have met with the social worker, she came to our place and checked it out. She said it was nice and big, but it could play a problem some social workers may say oh an apartment. So Evan and I have been looking for places, we would like at least a 3 bedroom so we could adopt a sibling group, or maybe a 4 bedroom so we could have at least 3 siblings.

After meeting with her she sent us tons of papers to fill out, we filled our 18 pages each and then had to have medical and criminal record check done. We are just waiting for Evan's criminal record check to come back so we can mail it all off.

Our Social worker (SW) sent out reference checks to 4 of our close friends/family members, these 4 people have sent them all back and so that is one step done.

Our SW will have to come back to our house and meet with us separate and get a feel for what we both want and question us and also draw out our house and write about it (home study). So once she gets all the papers she will do this.

Once everything is done, home study, paper work. We get put in the computer and wait! Its not going to be easy, but it will be worth it in the end.

What we want, we would love a child from 18months-3 years old. A new baby would be awesome with a sibling. We would actually love a child around two for Larkin (our niece) to have a playmate all the time. We are talking about 2 children, a sibling group would be awesome, if one is younger and the other isn't to old.

Problems with children- So after meeting with our social worker, we have found out that 95% of the children in the BC ministry will have some sort of issue. That being said Evan and I are ready for anything. We had to fill out papers and they asked us what issues we would accept. We have decided on mild Autistic and would take a child that was addicted to Drugs or Alcohol during pregnancy (Most of these children were born with either of these). Drugs/Alcohol could have many emotional delays, and we are ready for it. As we told the social worker we could have a child natural and it could have autism and we would still love that child and get the best help for that child, so why would we not consider taking a child with these characteristics.

We are very luck to have moved back to BC, we have meet some great friends. Our pastor and her husband adopted their little girl 2 years ago. And another friend just came back home with her 2 girls praise God!!

So as I say its not going to be easy Evan may have to take lots of time off work. But talking to our SW she said he may only have to take a week or two but she said to save money and to save holidays. As we can not adopt near us we would either have to go to Vancouver or up North (Yes we said yes to an native child or even an Inuit) or to anywheres from 5 hours- 20 hours from where we live.

Please keep us in your prayers for this journey and also that we can find a house to live in for not to much. Our home town has not dropped prices yet and houses are ridicoulous here.

Denise

Who are we

We are the Reker's and we got Married August 2003, we were both young but knew what we wanted in life. The one major thing we wanted in life was a baby.

Little did we know that it would take so long, we started our journey in March 2006 and are still facing doctors and now social workers.

Evan and I have moved and had to leave our last Fertility Doctor, who really did us no good. We were going to meet with a new one just before we moved. After we moved I have been seeing a doctor in a city close by but he can not help us and has to send us 3 hours away to the big city.

We have fertility problems and we will need medical help to get us through it. Poly cystic Ovary Syndrom has taken over, we are happy to say that the tubes are open. We will see if IVF is our only hope or if we can do IUI with Clomid.

Evan and I have decided we are willing to adopt, and are really happy with this decission and think this is what the Lord has planned for us. Maybe not doing fertility treatments are for the best, who knows we could be the next Octo parents!

So welcome to our Journey of trying to get ourself a little Reker or maybe 2 or 8 who knows what God has in store for us!